Episode 80

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20th Aug 2025

Judge Lynn Toler: What 'Divorce Court' & Losing My Husband Taught Me About Love

In this episode, we dive deep into a heartfelt conversation with Judge Lynn Toler, who shares her personal journey and professional insights on love, relationships, and emotional intelligence. Judge Toler reflects on her mother's profound influence, her own marriage of 33 years, and the tragic loss of her husband. She discusses the complexities of communication, the common issues in relationships, and the importance of understanding and meeting emotional needs in a partnership.

This episode also touches on her experiences on shows like 'Divorce Court' and 'Marriage Bootcamp,' underscoring the universal challenges couples face. Judge Toler's wisdom, humor, and authenticity shine through as she offers valuable lessons for anyone seeking to improve their relationships or navigate personal loss.

IN THIS EPISODE:

- (03:44) Insights on Relationships and Reality TV

- (06:37) Influence of Mother's Emotional Intelligence

- (07:57) Growing Up with a Bipolar Father

- (14:51) Navigating Early Adulthood and Career Choices

- (20:01) Marriage and Family Dynamics

- (23:49) Coping with Loss and Grief

- (29:30) Reflections on Long-term Relationships

- (37:14) The Culture of Loud and Proud Relationships

- (37:37) Navigating Relationship Advice and Hypocrisy

- (38:33) Understanding Individual Needs in Relationships

- (40:06) The Influence of Dr. Laura and Direct Communication

- (44:49) The Role of Emotional Intelligence in Relationships

- (47:34) Communication Issues as the Root of Relationship Conflicts

- (48:07) The Impact of Social Media on Relationships

- (49:02) Coping with Tragedy and Personal Loss

- (01:00:13) Balancing Roles and Responsibilities in Relationships

- (01:06:53) The Importance of Not Taking Each Other for Granted

RESOURCES

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My FREE eBook The Magnetic Woman

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CONNECT WITH CHARLENE 

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CONNECT WITH JUDGE LYNN

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Love Stories
Love Stories highlights the relationship journeys of successful, modern-day women and the trials they’ve overcome in pursuit of finding their aligned partner. Through actionable tips, constructive advice and my deeply passionate pep talks, you will leave feeling confident and empowered to choose the right man, communicate intimately, and connect to your full feminine power.

It’s time to release your old patterns and embrace a new shift into Chapter One of your love story. Hosted by Charlene Byars, a certified empowerment coach and relationship expert.

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Charlene Byars

I'm Charlene, a dating and relationship expert. I'm also a Certified Empowerment Coach and Women’s Revolutionary Mentor. It’s my job to hold space for you while you move through the spaces of empowerment. Whether it’s old patterns that you want to be free of, or old beliefs that need to be let go of, I am here assist you in finding your true joy. Because there is no reason for you to live any other way than how you truly want your life to be.