Episode 81

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Published on:

27th Aug 2025

How to Ask For What You REALLY Want in Bed (Without Shame or Awkwardness)

In this engaging episode, we interview Karli Harvey Raymond, an international event host, MC, and certified sex educator. They discuss the importance of sexual wellness and confidence for women. Karli shares her unique journey from growing up in a religious household to becoming a sex educator who helps women embrace their desires.

The conversation explores why sex remains a taboo topic, the impact of shame, trauma, and stress on sexual pleasure, and practical tips on improving intimacy in relationships. Karli also offers advice on communicating sexual needs effectively and the significance of foreplay for women's sexual satisfaction. The episode emphasizes the crucial role of communication in relationships and Karli's methods for renewing attraction and intimacy with long-term partners.

IN THIS EPISODE:

- (03:24) Breaking Taboos Around Sex

- (06:03) From Purity Culture to Sex Educator

- (09:16) Empowering Women Through Sexual Confidence

- (13:00) The Role of Pleasure in Our Lives

- (23:06) Communicating Desires with Partners

- (28:25) Exploring Fantasies and Boundaries

- (34:21) Using the Yes-No-Maybe List

- (36:40) Evolving Sexuality and Connection

- (38:48) Common Issues in Long-Term Relationships

- (42:26) Misconceptions About Sex

- (51:48) Encouraging Change in Relationships

- (55:37) Karli's Workshops and Coaching

RESOURCES

Check out my How to Attract Devoted Masculine Men Masterclass HERE 

My FREE eBook The Magnetic Woman

App rec: Bumble

Feminine Embodiment HERE

CONNECT WITH CHARLENE 

On Instagram @mscharlenebyars 

On YouTube @chosentraining

Work with me HERE

CONNECT WITH KARLI

On Instagram HERE

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Love Stories
Love Stories highlights the relationship journeys of successful, modern-day women and the trials they’ve overcome in pursuit of finding their aligned partner. Through actionable tips, constructive advice and my deeply passionate pep talks, you will leave feeling confident and empowered to choose the right man, communicate intimately, and connect to your full feminine power.

It’s time to release your old patterns and embrace a new shift into Chapter One of your love story. Hosted by Charlene Byars, a certified empowerment coach and relationship expert.

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Charlene Byars

I'm Charlene, a dating and relationship expert. I'm also a Certified Empowerment Coach and Women’s Revolutionary Mentor. It’s my job to hold space for you while you move through the spaces of empowerment. Whether it’s old patterns that you want to be free of, or old beliefs that need to be let go of, I am here assist you in finding your true joy. Because there is no reason for you to live any other way than how you truly want your life to be.