Episode 71

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18th Jun 2025

Is Your Past Secretly Hurting Your Relationship? Here's How to Heal Together

In this episode of the Love Stories podcast, I had the pleasure of welcoming Tarah and EJ Kerwin, a dynamic couple dedicated to transforming the lives of couples through meaningful connection and support. As the founders of Relationship Renovation, they have developed innovative programs aimed at helping couples thrive, regardless of their current circumstances.

Throughout our conversation, Tarah and EJ highlighted the significance of understanding one's past and how childhood experiences shape our adult relationships. They discussed the concept of secure attachment and how it plays a crucial role in fostering healthy connections. By sharing their own vulnerabilities and the tools they developed, they provided valuable insights for listeners who may be experiencing similar challenges in their relationships.

This episode is a heartfelt reminder that while relationships can be incredibly challenging, they can also be repaired and strengthened with the right tools and support. I hope you find inspiration in Tarah and EJ's story and the wisdom they shared, and remember to stick around for the tip of the week at the end of the show!

IN THIS EPISODE:

- (10:38) The Importance of Communication

- (18:49) Seeking Help Before Crisis

- (29:16) Developing Code Words for Communication

- (32:00) Cognitive Restructuring in Conflict

- (40:14) Building Secure Attachments

- (44:40) Self-Protection and Emotional Needs

RESOURCES

Check out my How to Attract Devoted Masculine Men Masterclass HERE 

My FREE eBook The Magnetic Woman

App rec: Bumble

Feminine Embodiment HERE

CONNECT WITH CHARLENE 

On Instagram @mscharlenebyars 

On YouTube @chosentraining

Work with me HERE

CONNECT WITH EJ & TARAH

On Instagram HERE

Relationship Renovation HERE

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About the Podcast

Love Stories
Love Stories highlights the relationship journeys of successful, modern-day women and the trials they’ve overcome in pursuit of finding their aligned partner. Through actionable tips, constructive advice and my deeply passionate pep talks, you will leave feeling confident and empowered to choose the right man, communicate intimately, and connect to your full feminine power.

It’s time to release your old patterns and embrace a new shift into Chapter One of your love story. Hosted by Charlene Byars, a certified empowerment coach and relationship expert.

Follow Charlene @mscharlenebyars.

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Charlene Byars

I'm Charlene, a dating and relationship expert. I'm also a Certified Empowerment Coach and Women’s Revolutionary Mentor. It’s my job to hold space for you while you move through the spaces of empowerment. Whether it’s old patterns that you want to be free of, or old beliefs that need to be let go of, I am here assist you in finding your true joy. Because there is no reason for you to live any other way than how you truly want your life to be.