Episode 106

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5th Aug 2026

Hidden Causes Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong Men | FT: Shana Richardson

Hidden Causes Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong Men | FT: Shana Richardson

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Certified hypnotherapist and founder of The Magnetic Queen, Shana Richardson, joins Charlene on Cheers to Great Love for a deeply healing and eye-opening conversation about why so many women keep repeating the same patterns in love, and what it actually takes to change them. Shana breaks down how your subconscious mind, not your conscious desires, is choosing who you attract and how you show up in relationships.

She explains the difference between subconscious patterns and talk therapy, what secure attachment really means, and why women who have done years of personal development still find themselves stuck in the same cycles.

TIMESTAMPS

0:00 - Introduction: Who is Shana Richardson

2:30 - What subconscious patterns actually means (the real definition)

5:30 - How your body decides what feels safe and what is love

8:00 - Why your childhood determines who you attract as an adult

11:00 - Shana's personal story: Attracting emotionally unavailable partners 14:30 - Why you keep attracting unavailable men even when you want something different

17:30 - What's happening beneath the surface most women never see

21:00 - The doer woman who struggles to look inward

24:30 - Why high-achieving women develop masculine patterns in love

28:00 - The two core beliefs Shana had to unlearn before love changed

31:30 - Hypnotherapy vs talk therapy: Why the body has to be involved

35:00 - The biggest misconception about healing that keeps women stuck 38:30 - Why you can't let go of your ex and what's really happening

42:00 - You have to actually feel your feelings (not just think about them) 45:30 - Taking personal responsibility without going into shame

49:00 - Dating the same man in seven different bodies explained

52:30 - What starts changing first when women begin doing inner work

56:00 - Shame vs guilt: The distinction that changes everything

59:30 - What a Magnetic Queen actually is

1:02:00 - Practical steps for single women right now

1:05:00 - Practical steps for married women right now

1:07:30 - A real client transformation story

1:09:00 - How to find Shana and connect.

She also gets vulnerable about her own journey, dating the same emotionally unavailable man in seven different bodies before discovering hypnotherapy, and the two core beliefs she had to dismantle before her relationships finally changed.

Whether you are single, married, healing from heartbreak, or just starting to ask the hard questions about love, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are.

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About the Podcast

Love Stories
Love Stories highlights the relationship journeys of successful, modern-day women and the trials they’ve overcome in pursuit of finding their aligned partner. Through actionable tips, constructive advice and my deeply passionate pep talks, you will leave feeling confident and empowered to choose the right man, communicate intimately, and connect to your full feminine power.

It’s time to release your old patterns and embrace a new shift into Chapter One of your love story. Hosted by Charlene Byars, a certified empowerment coach and relationship expert.

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Charlene Byars

I'm Charlene, a dating and relationship expert. I'm also a Certified Empowerment Coach and Women’s Revolutionary Mentor. It’s my job to hold space for you while you move through the spaces of empowerment. Whether it’s old patterns that you want to be free of, or old beliefs that need to be let go of, I am here assist you in finding your true joy. Because there is no reason for you to live any other way than how you truly want your life to be.